If we are gay, and are not accepted, then we have to go out of our way to show we are worthy. To deal with the shame, we turn to things, such as being an over achiever, straight A student, president of all the clubs, leader in sports, get the big jobs, get all the name brand clothing, the dream car and house, hosting the most elaborate parties, spending hours in a gym creating these sculpted bodies, not realizing we are not doing these things to make us happy, but a lot of the times to gain approval and try and prove our worth. This creates shame and a desire in all of us to be accepted in whatever way we can get it. The rejection from our families and friends, our church, our community.
Shame we do not even know we have that rises from all the trials we had to face growing up being different.īeing shamed for who we truly are as kiddos creates in us a shame that we carry into adulthood. And I see it on the daily being an Aesthetic Nurse Injector at my studio! And at the end of the day, one of the biggest underlying causes of BDD (not to mention eating disorders, anxiety, and depression in our community) is SHAME. Because I have suffered from BDD myself and know all too well the damage it can do. How do you know so much about this Josh?! you ask.
We already have so much to fight against with the breeders hating on LGBTQIA+, why in the world are we tearing each other apart in our own community based on looks and appearance?! It is poisonous and is cancer to our culture and we are in need of some spiritual chemotherapy to rid us of this toxicity. Fighting the fight together against all odds. and may the odds be ever in your favor.but only if you have abs or a beard! The gay community used to be such a community mindset. yet we are met with a sickening, unrealistic standard within the gay community that we “have” to live up to? We are hit with the Judge Judy glances in the scene, the toxic Masc4Masc culture, femme shaming, Mean Girl culture that is like walking right into the Gay Hunger Games. I mean coming out alone is hard enough in itself! And after surviving the trauma that can cause, we come into a world that is supposed to embrace us.